A little back story on how I got hooked up with my life coach. After I got laid off in 2008, I was out of work for awhile (and not so secretly loving it!) and trying to figure out what the next step was. With the blessing of having severance to bridge the gap for a bit, I was able to start thinking. During this time, my dear friend Rachel approached me about her coworker/friend that was starting to be a life coach and was looking for people to "practice" on and she thought of me. I said yes. And Rodney and I worked on different things together but I can say that my head wasn't really in it and we didn't get far. Then he was deployed to Iraq for a year (You can bet your ass I am proud that my life coach is a soldier!) and we lost touch.
Fast forward to Sept. 2010 and I get a random call from him wanting to do a completion call with me from what we worked on before. We talked for 90 minutes one night and I was FINALLY ready for it. I spilled more to him in that time than any of my friends ever heard. So, to get him started again and to help myself I signed on for 3 months...I was his first ever paying client. Score for both of us.
So we would talk for one hour each week and I would have different assignments to work on and created 4 different projects (Relationship, Financial, Career and Well Being). I'm not going to tell you that I've rocked out each and every one of these projects but as is life, they are a work in progress. And the perfectionist in me f*cking hates that. But the new Sarah says it's ok (don't worry that perfectionist is still in there and I have to fight that bitch every day - in some ways, it is who I am and I LOVE that about myself now). It's so hard for me to put into words how much I learned about myself, my life and going after everything I've ever wanted. I've gotten rid of the shitty things I used to tell myself (ok they sneak up too but I am SO much better than before), gotten off the selfish bitch-people pleaser teeter totter I was on for most of my life, and am FINALLY putting myself first. It's been freaking amazing.
Don't worry, it wasn't all peachy keen the whole way down the path. Sometimes Rodney would want to push me to do things my heart wasn't really in...like joining a gym b/c I had this crazy ass idea I wanted to be a runner - I can count on one hand how many times I actually went to the damn gym, online dating (and I went on a date too...ugh) - which I've determined is NOT for me, just to name a few. And we fought..not like punches and that stuff, but there was a time when he pushed a few wrong buttons and I completely shut down. For a whole week. On him. And I'd never done that. But we worked through it. B/c as he said - his work with me is out of love for me and the love he wants me to have for myself.
It was the best gift I'd ever given myself. And it was worth every f*cking penny I invested into it b/c it was an investment in MYSELF. I would not be here today sharing my life with all of you without going through this experience for 11 months (I think that's how long it was?). It completely rocked my world and changed everything about me for the better. It's funny to talk to friends who have known me for years and can see this change in me. When Rodney and I "broke up" as I called it - it wasn't b/c I didn't love him, want him or need him in my life - it was purely a financial decision. And it wasn't a break up forever, just a break. (bahahaha - makes me think of Ross and Rachel on Friends) And the crazy thing is - we both cried. It was more emotional than anything I've gone through. That man knows me better than anyone else does and cares so much.
And yet, I've never met him in person. He lives in St. Louis and I'm in Des Moines. (Did you all see that coming?) Yet he helped me change my life. Over the phone. One night a week.
If you, or anyone you know, is needing to make a change or is looking to go down a different career path or whatever - a life coach is truly an amazing gift. And I can hook you up with my man, Rodney. He has his own business now in St. Louis. You won't regret it.
I promise :)
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