I'd say I want a Monday do-over...

...but that would just mean the weekend would be farther away. So I'll take today as it was and keep moving forward! 


So it was a funny day from the start. And it got myself and a friend talking about dating and the quality of men we are meeting/being introduced to etc. It's funny how you can have a conversation with someone and it goes amazing, on for hours and you think -dang this dude is actually a GOOD one. Believe me, we ladies in our 30's (f*ck - that makes me feel old) - ladies in our EARLY 30's continuously wonder if there are truly any good ones left out there. The ones we end up talking to more than once turn out to be guys that likely don't deserve take us out on a first date. Or even to have another conversation with. And it's the stuff they DON'T tell you about that changes all of this. In the society we live in, we definitely need to protect ourselves and do our homework. So once you have at least a first/last name you are pretty much set to do at least a little pre-screening (aka internet stalking). Is that a bad thing? Should we be allowed to judge the potential of another person to be a good match based on information we find out about them online? I mean, there's creeping their Facebook page to see what kind of pics they have (aka ones with an unmentioned gf/ex-gf - which is a prompt eliminator.) 


Then there's the next step. Online court records searching. Now, don't tell me you haven't done this to ANYONE ever. (If you haven't...kudos to you. But you should try it. For real.) Let's start turning over rocks on people. Some people's are pretty harmless (seat belt, speeding, window tint) but others have a little more going on that you'd ever think. Assault, domestic abuse, felonies - yikes, etc. Some things are major deal breakers. No matter how much a person says they've changed, they are working on getting their life together - there's always that little part of you that wonders what else they HAVEN'T told you. (And I know that no guy is going to come out on a first date/convo/whatever and tell you he's got an assault charge but when was it and what's he doing now? Is his life REALLY together or is he still living in his parents house and can barely hold a steady job?) So, are their kids out there they aren't telling you about that they have to pay child support on but aren't? (Ooh, if they owe back support...that shit will go on forever!) Do they have a crazy ex-spouse that isn't over the relationship with? You just never know.


We all have a past. No doubt about it. But when you check out MY name under Iowa Courts Online - all you're going to find is a slew of speeding tickets and a small claims court case. That's right. I took an ex-boyfriend to court. We had a small misunderstanding who was responsible for paying for that amp and cabinets he needed for his gig in a band. We'll just say, he paid for it. :) 


Is that disqualifying information for someone creeping on me? Might be. All they'd have to do is ask about it and I'll tell them how it is. I'm like the First Bank of Sarah. You don't pay me money owed, I'm required to take action. I just don't have to defend myself on bail being made, time spent in jail or probation. My lesson was a pretty easy one to learn and grow from. :) 


Now if you'll excuse me - I have a little "research" to do...